Feb 28, 2022The Dreaded N-WordThe thing about numbing yourself to bad emotions, is that you had to numb yourself to the good ones too. After what I called our Airport Argument, my ex apologized. He claimed, as usual, that insecurity was the root of his problem and that he was going to work on…Dating7 min readDating7 min read
Feb 14, 2022I Made My EscapeHere. I walked out of my apartment, trying not to let the heavy, green iron gate slam behind me. It was 4 o’clock in the morning and I didn’t want to wake my brand-new neighbors. Even though it was 4 a.m., the air was still warm enough to sweat if…Dating10 min readDating10 min read
Mar 31, 2021So… I Met My SoulmateAnd I didn’t even expect it. I know it’s all I’ve been writing about for the past two years (well, year and nine months, but who’s counting?) but I still didn’t expect it to happen when it did. When the medium told me I’d meet him about two and a…Love14 min readLove14 min read
Mar 9, 2021How To Date Like A ChampionGrowing up, my mother consistently told me not to worry about men. She insisted that I needed to focus on my life and my career first and then men would come. I listened to her (although I was extremely boy crazy) and focused mostly on my future and carving a…Love7 min readLove7 min read
Published inCurious·Feb 9, 2021So You Feel Worthless, Now What?After I shared my last blog post, I realized that I wasn’t the only woman who felt unworthy of love. Multiple women were able to relate to the subconscious pattern of choosing partners they felt were ‘less than’. And why wouldn’t they? Living in a heterosexual, patriarchal society has taught…Self Love9 min readSelf Love9 min read
Jan 26, 2021Maybe I’m Not ReadyAfter Scruff broke it off with me, I tried to convince myself that I was okay. No matter how it actually went down, the outcome was still the same: our situationship had ended. We were both no longer interested in each other and were free to move on. Yet, I…Self Love6 min readSelf Love6 min read
Dec 22, 2020So I Was InsaneThe last time I’d broken up with Scruff, it didn’t end well. The Past It was eight years ago and we were still trying to be ‘friends’. We talked regularly and we both realized that we would be in Antigua at the same time. …Love7 min readLove7 min read
Dec 15, 2020I Ignored A Glaring Red FlagTwo days after paying for my own food and on the same day I posted this story about dating multiple men, Scruff ordered dinner and sent it to my house. I didn’t think it was a coincidence. Whether Scruff realized his error and sought to correct it or wanted to…Love8 min readLove8 min read
Dec 8, 2020He Finally Showed MeOnce I got to Virginia and settled in at my mother’s house, I breathed a sigh of relief. There was something comforting about being back in the suburbs, almost as if I had missed it after living in Connecticut for so long. I spent my first day feeling disoriented from…Love6 min readLove6 min read
Dec 1, 2020I Am No Longer Accepting The Bare MinimumMy entire dating life has felt like a continual fight. I used to pride myself on the fact that I never asked men for much. I was totally open to splitting checks, dating scrubs and even going out of my comfort zone if it made their lives easier. All I…Love8 min readLove8 min read
